Help...I find all the alignment information overwhelming!

We get it - we see you and you’re not the first (or last) mama to feel this way! We often call it ‘information overload’.

This feeling of confusion and overwhelm is the reason MUTU was created and why it is more than just a series of exercise instructions. You deserve more than that.

Correcting Diastasis Recti with alignment shifts, appropriate stretching and strengthening and through great nutrition is the right way to heal postpartum.

But we hear (and see) our Mamas frustrations, their tears, their endless and seemingly hopeless search for ever-more information about their body.  Some have already spent plenty of time and money on other exercise programs and not seen results or have consulted with various ‘experts’ who didn’t actually have the expertise or training to get them where they want to be in their postpartum journey. Some Mamas are on the verge of giving up altogether because it’s all just seems so hopeless.

It can become all-consuming and often has a huge affect on your overall happiness as well as your relationships. This is unfortunately a common downside of the infinite source of information that is the internet. It becomes an obsession and you may end up actually getting in the way of your own healing.

Wendy wrote a letter to an overwhelmed Mama a while ago which we hope will help you too.. So grab a cuppa, take a deep breath and settle down for 5 minutes to REALLY take this in.. It’s so important….

Dear Friend,

I see your posts here and in other groups – saying how you are ‘always thinking about your DR ‘[diastasis recti] and how it ‘takes over your life”… I see you feel like a failure again and again as yet another ‘solution’ somehow feels overwhelming and out of your reach or understanding. I see you scouring the internet hopelessly for the next solution, the next explanation, the next medical paper that means it will all fall into place for you.

Please, please, try this. Shift your mindset before you try to shift your body.  Diastasis recti is merely a symptom, one outer manifestation of pressure and mal-alignment within your body. It’s telling you your body is not quite in the right place or comfortable, which is why it doesn’t look and feel the way you want it to. It is not *the problem*. I know you feel overwhelmed  + I know you’re frustrated and searching for answers. You’re trying to change everything and fix everything all at once and you feel everything about your body is ‘wrong’ and broken.

You’re not broken Honey, but you have lost connection with your body – you’re mad with it. This is why you’re not making progress – not because you don’t know enough, not because you haven’t read enough alignment information or consulted enough experts – but because when you try to follow this myriad of instructions and advice in your head –all you see is chaos and confusion and a body that is a failure.

I know you read about diastasis online until your eyes glaze over. You’re a model alignment student… in theory if not in practice! I know you’ve paid to see private practitioners and Physical Therapists… and I’m not surprised you’re tearing your hair out. I really, really feel for you as I see your frustrations pour out in this and other forums.

I’m not going to give you yet another ‘how to stand’ or ‘how to engage your core’ instruction or cue. You have enough. You have too much for now.

Instead I am going to ask you to commit to doing one thing every day, starting today: to take 10 whole, silent minutes. To lie on your back (neutral spine, feet flat, neck unscrunched… you know this part) and to close your eyes and allow your poor confused, blamed body to relax. Breathe slowly and deep (ideally into your rib cage not your belly… but hey, you know what, just lie there and breathe will you?).

Your body is trying really hard to get it right for you. It wants to move naturally and without pain and discomfort. It has a natural default that it wants to get back to.  As you lie and breathe, just appreciate it. Focus on every part of your body from the tips of your toes, then the soles of your feet, then your ankles, your calves, your knees…move your focus slowly, mindfully up your entire body and relax every precious part one at a time.

And if any part of your head right now – is skim-reading this, thinking, I don’t need this yogic b******t ! I need to fix my DR!’… Stop. You do need it. This IS the missing link. I know because I have helped hundreds of women through this, more common than I’d like it to be, obstacle. You are not ‘not getting it’ because you don’t know enough. You are ‘not getting it’ because your mind, body and soul are not all on the same page right now. They need to be or you cannot heal.

When you get up (roll to the side first – not straight up!), then pick ONE alignment instruction or cue you have learned from a trusted professional source. I want you to find one single alignment shift that resonates with you – that you can connect with and that makes sense. If it gets you flustered, that’s not the right one. One, simple change that you can do and see happening. The outsides of your feet lined up on straight lines, or your lower ribs down and stacked over your hips. Or your weight through your heels or a barefoot walk propelled from the glutes, or  just untuck your butt.

And today, without blame or force or frustration, keep re-aligning that one thing. You’ll have to keep coming back to it. We all do – yes things become more natural and unconscious, but you never completely stop noticing. I’m always ‘shifting’. I’ll find myself standing in line at the supermarket, distracted and impatient – weight all in the balls of my feet and chest out, tense. I do a little check – ‘Back up Wendy. Weight through your heels… Oh that’s nicer. Drop your ribs. Relax your jaw. Smile at the kid in front of you’. Big difference – to the tension in every fascia and muscle in my body, as well as to my racing mind.

This isn’t a chore, or an exercise, it is simply being present in my own body – something that takes practice to get used to and then is just a happier way to just be.

Give your body a chance to get it right – one small shift at a time. Just start over today, and quiet your mind from the overload of information and instruction. No more googling.

You’ve got this – you know the ‘rules’ – so let your brain and heart and body have  a little hug and make up and let them find their way.

With love, Wendy xxx